I’m on the road so will keep this short. Meditation and confidence. Many might find it shocking that meditation can be used to boost confidence. The truth is that meditation can be used to strengthen any emotion or skill. The challenge with meditation as tool, however, is that many people shy away from it for many reasons. This is a shame because using meditation as a skill to improve your life can really reap some major rewards. In this post, we will look at how you can use meditation to create greater confidence, as well as a simple technology I personally use daily to fast track “mastering” meditation.
Let’s firstly talk about meditation in general and what it does.
When you meditate, you bring a great amount of awareness into your mind. In the moment of meditation you hold the power to decide exactly what your life is all about. The past and the future melt away, and all that’s left is you. So applied to confidence in this case, when you actively decide to boost confidence, you will.
Bringing Past Feelings Into The Present
The first thing you should do is familiarise yourself with the feelings associated with confidence. Take a moment to recall different times in your life that you felt especially confident. How exactly did you feel?
For example, maybe you remember a time when you entered a sports competition. You trained hard and you believed in yourself. How did you feel right before you started?
Let’s say that you now have to lead a group of people at work. You’re feeling a little scared about it because all of the details are not falling into place as you’d like. Meditate on the feelings of confidence. Bring the positive emotions from past successes into your present and approach your problem with those positive feelings instead.
You literally transfer those positive emotions from the past into the present.
Picturing The Future
In order to strengthen your meditation skills to encourage greater confidence, it may also help to picture future circumstances turning out in your favor.
GH Gideon Hanekom Life Coach High-Performance Trainer Consultant Personal Development Writer Thought Leader Speaker Pastor M.Div Whangarei Northland New Zealand New Life Better Life Blog
When you sit down to meditate, be very detailed in your visions. Use the confident feelings you know you have and place them into the situations you’re envisioning.
This activity is a good idea to try if you feel that negative emotions are overtaking you. However, for the most part you should be concentrating on the present moment and taking life one breath at a time.
Staying In The Now
Sometimes you’ll feel negative emotions, the opposite of confidence, when you’re overwhelmed with problems. This is when it’s especially important to stay in the now.
When you meditate on each breath and focus on the present moment, you’ll realise how very simple life is among the complexity. You’ll be able to calm down. With a calm head you can then reach for the confidence you seek.
Remember these tips as you meditate:
- Find a place where you can be alone with your thoughts.
- Sit in an upright position with good posture.
- Fight the urge to take a nap or go to bed.
- Take deep inhales and long exhales. 4 Seconds in, hold 2 seconds, 4 seconds out (through the nose).
- Pause in between breaths.
- Repeat a mantra or affirmation to yourself as you breathe in and out.
Using Technology to Meditate Often
Meditation is an art that takes practice. In many cases it can take years of discipline to master it. And just like anything else, when you practice often you’ll get better at it. You shouldn’t just use the art of meditation when you feel that you need it, just like you shouldn’t only exercise when you have to. Rather strive to make meditation a part of your everyday routine. But this is where a lot of people get stuck.
GH Gideon Hanekom Life Coach High-Performance Trainer Consultant Personal Development Writer Thought Leader Speaker Pastor M.Div Whangarei Northland New Zealand New Life Better Life Blog
In order to “master” meditation you have to do it often, but in order to want to do it often you need to have some competency it in. So how can we get around it?
The short answer — technology.
What if you could buy something and just by listening to it, it will take you into a calm, meditative state without difficulty? All YOU need to do is listen. Would you be interested?
Well there is, and now you can.
It is called Zen12 and I personally use this software every single day. It takes about 12 minutes and starts with level 1 and overtime take you to level 12. The best part is that it’s cheap.
If you would like to know more about Zen12 you can go here to do that.
It will be a great little investment in your personal development.
Soon you’ll find that you won’t have to try as hard to reach your meditative state. Also, confidence will become part of your life and you’ll feel a greater power within.
It’s easy to talk and read about meditation, but it’s quite another experience to do it.
In theory, it sounds like such an easy and delightful practice. The truth is that you’re likely to get bored at first and you’ll probably make excuses about whether or not you really have the time for it.
My challenge for you is to strive to remain disciplined and keep up with your practice. When you do, you’ll experience a true inner peace and confidence like never before.
Leave your comments and questions below as I love getting them.
To your success,
Gideon Hanekom
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Previously published on Therelationshipguy.com.
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